23 Lessons I Learned by 23

In the words of the wise Blink-182, “Nobody likes you when you’re 23.” With that being said, after having already bypassed my birthday about a month ago, I have thought back on the lessons that I have learned over the course of my twenty three years spent living.

  1. Swearing is unattractive and makes you sound less intelligent.
  2. “If you have two friends in your lifetime, you’re lucky. If you have one good friend, you’re more than lucky.” – S.E. Hinton, The Outsiders
  3. Eat well not just to stay thin. Eat well for the sake of your well-being and mentality. Eat well because you’re WORTH IT.
  4. But still eat a burger sometimes, because life is short.
  5. Don’t be afraid to ask for help when you really need it.
  6. Your struggles definitely do not define you, whether it be your depression or lack of mathematic skills.
  7. Making to-do lists to stay organized are the keys to your success.
  8. Your parents are getting older, too. Treasure the time you have with them.
  9. “The smartest thing a woman can ever learn is to never need a man”
  10. Good things come to those who wait, whether it be the right job or a romantic relationship.
  11. As much as you may try, you cannot control others. The moment you realize this, life becomes a lot easier.
  12. Other people won’t make you happy — you need to face your insecurities head on and love yourself first.
  13. It is more worthwhile to go to bed at midnight and wake up early to work rather than working through the night. Your mind will be much sharper.
  14. Binge-eating Oreos will not fix your failed Calculus exam.
  15. You will never regret being kind to others.
  16. 5 shots of tequila doesn’t make you a better dancer.
  17. Write everything down. You’ll never remember when that meeting was otherwise.
  18. Stop comparing yourself to others — everyone moves at their own pace.
  19. Always carry Advil with you. You’ll never know when you (or someone else) will need it.
  20. Oh, and a portable charger for long days out of the house.
  21. The way you say something is sometimes much more important than what you say. Speaking in a calm voice instead of raising your voice will often go over better.
  22. Have a headache? Drink water. Bloated? Drink water. Is your skin breaking out? Drink water. Water is always the answer, basically.
  23. You were made the way you are for a reason. Stop trying to force yourself into a box.

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5 Lessons College Taught Me That Can’t Be Found in A Book

As my grandmother said before her passing last December, I “blossomed” over my four years of college.

Throughout my undergraduate career, I switched majors once, acquired 3 internships, studied abroad in Florence, Italy for a semester, traveled to the Dominican Republic for a service trip, held several editorial positions at an online media outlet marketed toward empowered college-aged women, built strong relationships with my professors, and lastly, made friendships that will last a lifetime.

I learned a lot of content academically throughout the years, from what it takes to build a strong brand image to the functions of an enzyme.  But of course, there is more to learn than what can be discussed in a lecture hall. I have compiled this list of lessons that I have learned over the past four years, specifically ones that cannot be found in a textbook.

1. Who my real friends are. 

Keep in mind that these may not be the first friends you make. Don’t waste time hanging out with people because you feel that you should — life is too short. Your time should be spent with people who lift you up, make you laugh, and will support you during your darkest days.

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2. You should be confident in your decision to stay single because you deserve the best.

Some guys are just not nice and are not worth your time or tears.

On the opposite end of the spectrum, even if a guy is perfectly nice and does all the right things — treats you with respect, texts you “good morning”, and takes you out on real dates that don’t involve “Netflix & Chill” — it still may not feel right and that’s okay too.

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3. Not knowing what you want to do is one hundred percent okay.  

So many undergraduates face a great deal of anxiety when making the decision of what to major in. What do I want to do with my life, anyway? 

I entered college as a psychology major but after enduring said anxiety, I changed my major to communication my sophomore year and have not looked back since. I knew going into college that I wanted to work with people, but after a few courses in psychology that were geared towards working in a lab, I knew that I was in the wrong classes — I wanted to work with people on a daily basis.

I had heard through the grapevine that marketing pairs nicely with a communication major, so I picked up a minor in marketing. I loved being able to take classes in something that I found interesting, was definitely applicable to the real world, and something that I seemed to excel at.

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4. Taking care of yourself is so important, both mentally and physically. 

This past semester, I made the decision to completely change my eating habits alongside two of my close friends — I started tracking everything I ate, practiced portion control, and increased my water intake.  I lost about 15 pounds but gained an immeasurable amount of confidence. After years of being ashamed of my body, I was no longer hiding behind baggy clothing.

Choose to go to the gym, not because you need to lose weight, but because you are worth taking care of yourself. Reap the benefits of exercise — go to the gym for 20 minutes to blow off some steam, even when you have that psychology exam tomorrow that you’re going to “totally fail”.

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5. Traveling can truly change who you are as a person. 

I had the opportunity to study abroad for an entire semester in Florence, Italy and was able to truly grow as a person, as cheesy as it may sound. I gained senses of resilience and independence living in a city inhabited by people that spoke a language I was unfamiliar with, as well as traveling every weekend to different countries with the amazing friends that I made.

Conversely, on my service trip to the Dominican Republic with a group of students from my university, I was exposed to a way of life that I had never seen before. We were housed in the Mustard Seed community in Puerto Plato, DR, and volunteered to work with impoverished children with developmental disabilities. That week in January allowed me to solidify the fact that I want to take on a permanent career that allows me to help others.

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I cannot express in words how grateful I am that I was given the privilege to study at Fairfield University for the past four years. My time there will be greatly missed, but I am excited to see the amazing opportunities that are on the horizon for me. Once a Stag, always a Stag.

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Fall 2017 Favorites

Hi everyone and happy November!

It is so hard to believe that November is already halfway over and that Thanksgiving is next week. This year has been busier than ever — with fall semester of my senior year now in full swing, the pressure is on to apply to jobs and study hard. Not to mention that I am also interning part time at a marketing research firm….

With so much on my (and every other senior’s!) plate right now, it is important to have products that I can depend on. With this in mind,I have come across a few new things this fall that I naturally had to share with you all. So let’s get into my fall 2017 favorites!

An awesome planner 

I got this cute planner on sale at Michael’s and I have to say that it has definitely kept me organized. I would be lost without this thing, and not to mention its adorable marble print!

A great pair of jeans 

As a girl with thicker thighs and a butt, I never loved skinny jeans because I do not find them very flattering on my body type. So when I finally saw straight-leg jeans reappear in stores, I knew that I had to get my hands on a pair. I got an incredible pair from Madewell that I have LIVED in this fall. They are so comfy and I love the cut of them. The only cons are the price tag and the fact that they only come in one color. Madewell, please release these in darker washes!!

A comfy pair of motorcycle boots

Not a riding boot or LL Bean Boots kind of gal? I’ve got you, fam.  These Aquatalia boots are my favorite boots in the entire world, although very expensive. (Psst! They’re on sale for 54% off at Nordstrom Rack right now so snatch them up while you can!) They are so incredibly comfortable, warm and also waterproof, making them the perfect boot for wintertime. My sister and I have both lived in them for the past two years until we decided it was time to part ways with them because they were beaten to death. Naturally, I just repurchased them because of the sale!

A Dark Liquid Lip

While this is a new favorite of mine and have only worn it once or twice on nights out, I have to say that I was blown away by the Nars Powermatte Lip Pigment in Wild Night. Its a very deep purple and I like that it makes my teeth look white. I did not think that I could pull off a dark lip before trying this out!

Kat Von D Shade and Light Contour Palette  

When I spotted this amazing contour palette for $25 at Marshal’s after eyeing the full price item for nearly a year, I knew that I had to pick I up. While the one I just picked up is in its old packaging, which probably explains the difference in pricing, the pigmentation of these powders is incredible. I love using a bit of the middle banana shade to brighten the area under my eyes for everyday and then using the lightest contour shade to chisel out my cheekbones when I want to step up my makeup look.

Setting Spray

The Urban Decay All Nighter setting spray is my saving grace for nights out. After spending half an hour on my makeup, I want to ensure that my time was not wasted so I use this stuff to lock everything into place. It keeps my entire face looking nice for hours. Just make sure to wait to spray it on face after your mascara is completely dry to avoid making a mess under your eyes.

Keyboard cover

After having had to recently replace my computer, I knew it was time to take better care of my new one. With this in mind, I searched Amazon for a keyboard cover, as I often find myself spilling coffee and God-knows-what-else on my keyboard, which probably was something that led to my poor past computer’s demise. This Mosiso one is a great option — I purchased it on Amazon and while it took a day or so to get used to, I barely notice it anymore when I type on my computer. I also love the cool marble effect that it adds to my computer.

 

 

 

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